My thoughts are trending a bit to the melancholy side today. And I’m contemplating the Circle of Life. And the brevity of life. Just a vapor and then it’s gone.
My Grandma died Friday afternoon. 91 years and a few months on this earth and now she is HOME in heaven! Home with her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Tears slide down my cheeks as I think of how wonderful that must be! She can now walk upright and freely, without a cane and it doesn’t take her forever to get places! She’s free of pain, no longer too weak to get around, and the joy must be overwhelming!
Grandma King was the last living Grandparent we had in our family. My husbands grandparents died several years ago and my other grandma died 2 years ago in December. So this is truly the end of an era for us. The oldest generation for us now is our parents. That feels a bit funny. When did we quit being young and turn to middle-aged? And when did our parents become ‘older’? These changes happen so quickly as we get busier and busier with raising families, running businesses, all the responsibilities that go along with being adults.
My Grandma King was a unique person. I never had a really close relationship with her but I have lots of memories of her and Grandpa. As kids my sister, brother, and I would stay with them occasionally when my Mom needed a sitter. Grandma was always crotcheting something and Grandpa would peel apples for us, eating the peal himself as we didn’t like it. He’d get out the cheese puffs and baloney and cheese for us and Grandma would chuckle a bit over it. Grandma was a take charge, I’ll-tell-you-how sort of person. She knew how she wanted things and it didn’t bother her to tell everyone else how and what to do! Grandpa usually indulged her but I remember him doing his own thing on the sly a few times 😀 Grandma sewed a lot and she passed on some cool feed sack fabrics to me a couple days before she died.
Grandma hadn’t been walking well for a long time. She used a cane and it was taking her a long time to get from place to place in her house. She lived at home until just 2 days before she died. Last weekend my parents got a call from Lifeline saying Grandma had pushed her button and was not responding to them. My parents went to her house and she had fallen to her hands and knees beside the bed and could not get up. Dad helped her up and into bed and checked her the next morning. She said she was too weak to walk and Dad was having to help her to the bathroom and get her in a wheelchair where she would stay for the day. Grandma didn’t want help coming to her home, she wanted to go to a nursing home. So Mom and Dad found an assisted living place for her and we moved her stuff over last Tuesday night and they moved Grandma in on Wednesdy. Friday morning she wasn’t doing well, blood pressure up, breathing hard, and pulse dropping. She told my Dad she just wanted to go to heaven. Sometime around 3pm she did just that. I am so happy for her that she is now free of this life and with Jesus.
I think of her reuniting with Grandpa. With my Aunt Donna who died of cancer several years ago. My baby brother. My other grandparents. Her brother and sisters. And other family and friends who have gone before. If I could I’d have her give them hugs from me. Most of all I think of her joy at seeing her Savior. The older I get the more I long for the day I will meet Him face to face. And I envy Grandma just a bit. She lived her life here and now she’s done with this earth and gone. It also puts things here that I stress over back into perspective. In the end it really doesn’t matter – all those little things that seem so important and big to me now.
My brother and sister and her family will be traveling in from Kansas tomorrow (sunday) After the funeral we will go ahead and have Christmas with them before they head back home. Plans change when there is a death in the family. My girls are not overjoyed with the changed in plans and that their cousins will probably not be here as long as normal. Pray for them that they can learn that sometimes life doesn’t take the path that we plan and that God is in control and that we sometimes have to choose to be happy about the way things fall. I just shipped out my last two big pillow orders for the year. My assistant seamstress is sewing up the last dozen and also taking on another custom project I had been putting off because I was too busy. I’m so thankful I have help that can fill in for me.
Pray for my parents as they go through making funeral arrangements and get through the funeral. They are handling this all on their own. My father only had one brother and he lives out-of-state and his health is not good enough to enable him to come for the funeral. All decisions and arrangements are up to my parents. We are helping where we can and my Mom has sisters and church friends who are helping where they can but it is a lot in a short time and it is exhausting, both physically and emotionally.
If you think about it you can pray for us and my parents as we go into the new year too. We will have the task of going through Grandma’s things and deciding what to do with them all. She has some cool things and it will be fun to have some of them. But a lot will have to be sold or donated and her house will have to be sold or rented. It will be a big job and as I’ve already stated it’s just my parents to take care of it (and we can help with what we can)
If your grandparents are still living and you celebrate Christmas with them, pay special attention to your time together this year. You never know when it will be the last. We never celebrated Christmas with my Grandma and Grandpa King but in the years since Grandpa died we have made an effort to take gifts to Grandma and include her in some of our Christmas meals each year. She seemed to enjoy that even though she never ‘did Christmas’ much before.
If you’ve read this far, thank you for listening to my ramblings. Putting it all out here was cathartic for me today.
Have a Blessed Sunday,