How DO you do it all? I just don’t see how you do it all. I hear that a lot. Of COURSE you don’t see how I do it all – you are reading my blog or listening me talk about the projects I have going and you are trying to imagine doing all that on top of what you already do!
There is no way humanly possible for one person to ‘do’ it ALL. You either have help, or you let something go. Take this week for instance. This week I need to prep for an event on Saturday, work on getting my magazine contribution ready for the photo shoot, work on dresses for a couple of weddings, and we are hosting our Bible Study here tomorrow night. And I have to make a run to IKEA for pillow forms. And a list of stuff for friends 🙂
I needed a snack for Bible Study. I needed my house cleaned up at least a little. We started a project in the girls room and they can’t play in there so they have legos all over my living room. I was using my dining room table to work on projects. My sewing room is barely hovering at the line of organized chaos and will at any moment tumble into complete chaos.
And every day you sit down at your computer and you read my blog post about some project or some decor redo, or some ramble or the other. And in your mind it is all peaceful and serene here and the kids never fuss, and I never raise my voice and I always have it all under control – doing it ALL.
Not so! The things I leave go would make you cringe. My ceilings have not been swept for months. I don’t dust. I never mop my floors. I didn’t make that snack for Bible study. I didn’t even clean the bathroom more than a quick straighten, shove some things in already chaotic drawers, and give the toilet a quick spray-down with Lysol! I didn’t sweep, I didn’t get the old carpet moved off the front porch, and the dresser I just bought stayed on the porch where I plopped it, regardless of the fact that it really doesn’t qualify as porch furniture. My living room still overflows with a mishmash of furniture because I don’t have time to get slip covers made and I have a huge lack of storage space. And heaven forbid anyone goes in my bedroom – huge cringe.
We did have a snack for Bible study – my teenager made it. My floors do get mopped now and then – my husband does it. My kids fold the laundry and do most of the dishes. They fuss – a LOT. I have to tell them to do stuff way more often than I should. And I don’t take the time to be diligent about getting them to obey – cause I’m too preoccupied with my projects. My house is never magazine worthy – not sure that will ever happen.
I hope someday to be more organized. Maybe when the kids are out of school. Oh yes, school. I home school. But not like the great home school Moms you read about out there. Oh no. We are lucky to get done enough to get my kids through their CAT tests. They did get good grades on those this year so something is going ok for now. I can still see the look on a friend’s face though, when I told her how far Becca was through 1st grade at the end of the year. She was a bit horrified I do believe – because of the lack not the overachievement!
So don’t ever think I do it ALL. I don’t. Far from it. I have help in the form of my kids (which we all know is sometimes more work than help) and from my wonderful hubby. I have friends and family who come through when I need it – finding great stuff and Goodwill and getting it for me, babysitting my kids, helping with school, praying for me. And of course, above all, God is with me, carrying me through – especially in weeks like this one when everything needs to be done at once.
And the next time you look at someone and wonder how she does it all – remember – she DOESN’T! Even the supermoms out there who appear to do most of it – they have help somewhere and they let something go. They have to!
Now, go get an ice cream cone, prop your feet up, and allow yourself to NOT do it ALL.
Sew a Fine Seam
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