Are you laughing? After reading my title, ‘Advice on Home Keeping and Child Rearing’ you probably should be! Either that or you are totally flabbergasted and appalled that I would even consider handing out ‘advice’. I don’t blame you. You will soon discover, I think, that ‘advice’ was written rather tongue-in-cheek.
We’ll start with Home Keeping
I have discovered that my day is 100% more peaceful if I arise to a house that is, at the least, an organized mess. Sometimes I find myself in the middle of project and I leave it all spread out on my dining room table, but most days I like to have my dining room table clear at bedtime. After all, it’s the first thing you see when you come down the stairs or in the front door. Someday I hope to have a sewing room that is ONLY a sewing room, large enough for a grand work table, and a door I can close when I need to leave it in the middle of a project. Or when the mess is a complete mess instead of an organized mess.
Likewise I like to have my living room neat and tidy each evening. I begin most of my mornings on my couch in my living room with a cup of coffee and my Bible. I enjoy my quiet time so much more when the space I occupy is neat and tidy instead of strewn with all the kids papers, books, markers, pencils, toys, etc.
And my sewing room. I can only function for a short time in this sewing/school/computer/craft room before it is time to stop, reorganize, put away and fluff. My creativity level just doesn’t remain at an acceptable level in a mess.
This is what my sewing room looked like by the end of last week. The chair and ottoman with the heap of dropcloths on top of them is for a client. So it will be leaving – hopefully soon. It is on the docket for next week. But don’t hold me to it 😉
And just in case you think at first glance, ‘Oh that’s not so bad’…
Here is the pile behind the chair.
And a closer shot of the desk piled high with school stuff. And a stack of song books I don’t know where to store.
And a closer look at the stacks on the craft cupboard, the pile of vintage fabrics on burying the basket in the corner, the fabric and drop cloth that I just left on the floor, and the piles on the ironing board.
Seriously. That fabric pile has grown all summer. Time for some whole-hearted organization.
I spent most of last weekend working on other parts of my house. On Monday I had projects facing me that needed a Seamstress. But this Seamstress was just too stressed by the mess to even want to sew. Cleaning came first. I dug in and this desk ended up looking like this. The spelling book, papers and dvds go in the locker but as school was in progress I left them out. And didn’t bother to move them for the photo.
Qualifies as an organized mess but it is at least all on shelves behind a door!
That took care of one side of the room. I also took care of the piles behind the chair and moved the chair over to the wall so nothing more could be piled behind it. But then I turned around to the other side of the room. This space is almost never neat and tidy. There are always projects here, along with tidbits of this and that from here and there. School papers, a letter from a friend, a new ribbon order. And always more projects. Most days it just gets piled up higher so I have some space to work. This time I said ‘ENOUGH!!’
And I cleaned it up.
I don’t remember the last time the space on my desk behind my sewing machine was this cleared off.
The skinny baskets hold my sewing thread. pattern weights in the basket to the left. Small bag holds half-finished key chains. Larger basket to the right holds smaller projects or projects that need to be put at the front of the list.
Serger thread and sewing books are on the shelf above. So much nicer to create in a cleaned up space. I wonder how long it will last?
I did say ‘advice on home keeping AND child rearing’. I just had some thoughts on the second thing the other day as I was despairing over my seemingly complete lack of child rearing skills. I jotted the thoughts down and thought I’d share.
Do you ever despair that your children will ever learn to put others first? That they will ever think of someone besides themselves? That they will actually be polite naturally? Say thank-you without being reminded? I definitely DO. I am pretty confident that there is a way for this to happen. [I’m just not sure it will happen in MY family!]
Ever heard the saying, ‘More’s caught than taught’? It’s true. There are things I do today because I remember my Mother doing them. There are circumstances that I endure or get through gracefully because I remember my Mother reacting in a gracious graceful way. Not that I’m always perfect – not by a long shot – but the older I get the more I am able to remember to handle things in a more mature way – like I remember my Mom handling things when I was a child.
I think this means I need to watch even more closely my actions and reactions. Because my children are watching. And they are ‘catching’ much more by what they see, than they are by hearing all the ‘teaching’ I do. [harping at them all the time might be more like it] I hope it means that someday they will look back and remember that I handled things maturely and gracefully [at least sometimes] and they will act and react the same way.
That’s my $.02 worth for today. And I promise I’m not working on a book on Home Keeping or Child Rearing 😉